Tuesday, April 11, 2017
Clarity Making Transitions Easier
Another important quality that can help make transition
easier is to BE CLEAR. As you go
through the steps of becoming honest with yourself about what is needed, you
will gradually become more and more clear of what you want and need.
Of course want and need are often closely entwined, but you
can often have both fulfilled! Once you have come to the decision you want
change, continue contemplating. Perhaps you want to journal or make a list of
pros and cons for the different choices you have to make.
Change is often fueled by a need of some kind, or perhaps
you are aware enough to look ahead and plan for the future. No matter the
motivation for your change, you can manage to have both your needs and wants
fulfilled! Set in place your needs, then put in place your wants. They are
usually all possible.
Once you have really decided what is important to you, be
sure to be clear in your communication with others. This is of course important
first with your husband or wife or partner. You will come to a shared decision;
allow this to take as long as it needs to, if you are able. Many decisions are
ones that will affect you for years to come, so do allow each other to be on
the same page before making big changes.
Thereafter, be sure to be clear with others around you.
Family, children, sisters, brothers, etc. They will want to support you however
they can.
Then, be sure to be clear with whomever is involved with
making your move or change happen, be it marketing directors at a retirement
facility or the movers you will be working with.
Simply Change can help you with any part of the actual
process of movement or change. From the time you decide you are making a big
move, you can meet with us, even a year in advance. If you are ready immediately,
please get in touch right away. We offer our free one hour consultation
specifically to help people get a clear picture of what they’re moving process
can look like.
If you have decided you would like the assistance of Simply
Change for downsizing or organization, we have a three hour minimum, and you
can contact us to schedule anytime. We usually recommend having a couple of key
areas to really get set up during that time, and we can also briefly go over
another couple of areas during that time. Most areas of a home can be really
set up in form and function in just a couple of days. We tend to not work more
than about six hours in a day with one client because you will be making many
decisions—so get some rest the night before!
For whatever change it is you are about to make, the more
clear you can be the better—and we will start from wherever you are. We are
here to make it as easy as possible.
And if you are unclear
at this point, we can also start from there!! Like we said, we can help at any
point in the process. We can become
clear together on what will be most beneficial for you! It is a process,
and we are here for that.
Monday, March 13, 2017
Getting Ready to Make a Change
When it comes to making big changes, like moving or downsizing,
there are an infinite number of ways to feel, be, and act when under the
pressure to make that change. Most people do it with ease and grace, some
become somewhat overwhelmed, but everyone makes it happen.
Our goal is to help everyone
have a smooth and easy transition, no matter what. Here are a few qualities we
have seen with clients that seems to make the move easier for everyone. We will
discuss them over the next few blogs:
1 1) Be
Honest
2 2) Be
Clear (Including Communication)
3 3) Have
a Plan
4 4) Ask
for Help When Needed
5 5) Rest
When Needed
6 6) Take
Time to Have Fun
First of all, be honest—mostly with yourselves first. Why are you making this move or change? What are your strengths and abilities at this point in your life? Where would it be beneficial to get help—even if you “could” do it—to not cause yourself too much physical or mental stress? It may be that you could still do the move yourself, and maybe have dozens of times in your life, but is that the best thing for you now?
Our bodies all get older: it’s
the law of human existence. How we age is up to us. The fact that you are
considering your options by considering having Simply Change help you is kudos
to your openness to what you may need now in your life.
You may be busy, such as
working parents with two young children. If you make this work, kudos to you.
And, your entire life may operate more smoothly with a few organizational
systems in place, such as childrens’ closets being organized and accessible to
them. As children age, new systems are needed to allow their independence and
learning, and you may or may not have time, energy, or experience for that. In
fact, would you rather be doing that, or spending one on one time with your
children?
One of the best examples of
honesty I have seen is a charming woman who has dementia. She has the most
wonderful smile and happy spirit, and she just says quite early in most
conversations that she has dementia and just wanted to let us know that. Her
husband patiently processed their house to prepare for a big move, and was also
honest that in many ways he needed help because it was too much to take on
himself. They both touched our hearts with their earnestness and honesty as
they made the transition from a large single family home where they had lived
for years to a smaller home in a retirement community.
Whatever change you want in
your life, being honest with yourself and others is a good first step. From
there, the accurate plan can begin to be made.
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